Another NYFW has come and gone. These weeks I swear fly by but leave you so completely exhausted, but also exhilarated. As many of you know Kel & work full-time so we are only able to attend events and shows after work. However, we saw some absolutely incredible shows this past week ranging from Sachin & Babi all the way to Adam Selman and ending with Baja East. We will always be so thankful to have been given the opportunity to attend these shows, representing ourselves as opposed to through work or through a friend. We really are very proud.
We did however, find something to be different about this past NYFW. We all know that as bloggers, we are asked to attend by the designers & PR teams purely to capture moments through our lens and eye and show the new collections to our followers. We are there to show off street style, our personal favorite part! Outside the shows now, I truly believe things have shifted in that it is “all about us”. The photogs, magazines, press want to know what BLOGGERS and influencers are wearing. We are the ones paving the way in street style and that is TRULY REMARKABLE we have been given that power.
Unfortunately, this year we found it to be more about who you were showing up to the shows with rather than the fashion/style you were wearing. Kel & I always make a point to do street style with Lex of Lexicon of Style as she is one of our best friends and street style icons. But this year it was about showing up in PACKS. (like wolf packs). Which you know… is fine. It’s women empowerment, it’s a movement. However, the moment us as bloggers walk thru those two doors into the show.. it is not about “us” anymore. It is about the designer, it is about the designers art and this year we found that not to be the case. This is where the blogger clique movement has moved in like a god damn storm.
We of course have our own group of friends in the blogger community that we have had for awhile now. But there is something new about showing off your “clique” to the world that is leaving a bad taste in the mouths of well…everyone. So many girls feeling like if they aren’t in this group or that group they will never be taken seriously. I had this feeling at one of the shows where I sat in the midst of so many girls in one clique that were taking millions of pics together and even emailing during the show… where I felt like.. I don’t belong. Questions ran through my mind like “how do I fit in here” or “is this even where I want to fit in?” It is hard. Sometimes it feels like high school where there are different tables of cliques and you have all these girls with different amounts of followings and style aesthetics and that is how you are perceived by others.
As long as we have been blogging (4 years) it has never been like this. Girls everywhere are taking #squadgoals pics to show that in a sense, there is competition in this new movement. Which raises the next question… How do we create and keep true relationships in the influencer world that are honest, unforced and not for the sake of gaining more Instagram likes or followers? Our answer.. it is about QUALITY not QUANITITY. Trust me if a friend asks you to brunch not to get to know you but to just take brunch photos.. prob not a good sign. Again, we are all about women supporting women (obviously) and we will all find our best friends that mesh with us and our personalities but are committed to never changing ourselves to fit into the mold or aesthetic of someone else.
We will end by saying a thank you to every designer, publicist, friends, industry person and all humans who helped us have an amazing fashion week. WE LOVE ALL YOU GIRLS OUT THERE BLOGGING AND WORKING HARD and will support this community always. No matter if you just started blogging, or if you have been doing it for years, never be intimidated. Never give up. Never try and compare yourself to others. Never think you are “too small” to be apart of something, or “too big” to be above someone else.
Shop this post:
Courtney Purple Dress – Windsor Store // Courtney Orange Jumpsuit – Rent the Runway // Courtney Coat – Rent the Runway // Kelly Floral Dress – Windsor Store // Kelly Fur – Rent the Runway // Kelly Flared Pants – Zara // Kelly Top – This is April
Courtney & Kelly.